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BECOMING A PHALLIC MALE Stage One: Admit Your Inner Primal Man I want to start this series with a confession: I lead men’s work and tantra workshops now—but decades ago, that would have been inconceivable to me. It has been a long road to get to this point, and what I am going to share with you in this first part of the series has been essential to my own journey. Back in my 20s, I was desperately trying to be my idea of a "good guy." I was smart, funny, respectful, and polit

Introduction to 10 - Part Blog Series: Own Your Presence, Potency, and Pleasure as a Man If there is an epidemic affecting us as men, it is this: we live—and love—within very narrow parameters of which we are not even aware. I think this is what Thoreau meant when he said, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation." As sexual men, this desperation is leading to a silent crisis of porn addiction, loneliness, and depr